I have a love/hate relationship with safety systems. As an experienced and formally trained driver, I hate them. As a lazy SOB, and believer that most people are NOT good at driving, I love them.
I have two instances where a car has tried to kill me because a software developer made a decision about how the car should act by default months or years before the situation I put the vehicle in. Both instances a little bit of patience, or perhaps slightly less aggressive driving could have prevented in the first place. Arguably my fault for creating the less than ideal situation, but the software made a bad situation worse.
In my '12 Focus I pulled out in front of a dump truck. As I grabbed a big handful of second gear (yes it had a manual transmission), traction control decided I didn't need that power right now and essentially shut down the engine. Dump truck had to hop the curb and drive around me instead of rear ending me. Had it just spun the tires a bit more I would have arguably made it. My fault for getting in that situation, cars fault for making it worse.
In my current Q7, the "left turn collision avoidance" has misfired twice in the 7mo I've owned it. If it thinks I can't make it across traffic before the oncoming car gets to me, it slams on the brakes and forces me to release the gas, press the brake, then release the brake to move again. Once it didn't fire quite as fast as I was being aggressive and I was 1/4 way across the lane when it stopped me. I'm now sitting still in oncoming traffic with an F350 coming head on at me. Luckily he had space to gently swerve around me, but I would have rather just been through the intersection and on my way. My fault for putting myself in that position, software's fault for making it worse.......Also, one of these times was with my wife driving it. It scared her so badly she won't drive the car now. I mean, FULL ON REFUSAL to drive the car. She doesn't have any confidence that it's not going to try to stop her in traffic again when she doesn't want it to.......It's also pinned her between the hatch and the fridge in the garage, but that's another story for another day.
In general, the more experience you have driving, or the more aggressive you drive the worse the interference from the systems are. Much to my wifes point, it can SERIOUSLY dent the confidence of a driver as well. Not so much with their confidence in driving ability (my wife still thinks she's a fine driver, and generally she is), but in their confidence that the car will do what is asked of it. That mental effect of mistrust in a machine is hard to shake. You know the whole "boy who cried wolf" thing applies here as well. If you get sick of listening to the alert you start to find ways to avoid it all together. The Audi dinged my confidence in the car to such a point now, I turn off my signal just before I start to move. It won't check oncoming traffic if it doesn't think I'm turning. I can be as aggressive with that turn across traffic as I like and it doesn't try to stop me.
WITH ALL OF THAT SAID........We also have a 2018 Nissan Rogue. It has adaptive cruise, lane keep assist, collision warning, blind spot warning, and I'm sure some other safety stuff we don't even pay attention to. By and large it works great, has the appropriate level if intervention, and makes it a generally nice vehicle to drive. I know when driving the Rogue there have been a few "oh shit" moments in traffic where the car has beaten us to the brake pedal application, and it's proved it's worth. Overall, it's a nice set of features that I don't mind having, and generally stay out of my hair with false alarms.
The Automatic Cruise Assist is a little unnerving at first, but once you get used to it and build that aforementioned trust in the system, it's really a NICE feature on long road trips. City traffic and morning commutes have to much variability to use it much, but those road trips are much less stressful with that feature. We're hoping to keep the Rogue long enough to make that our (now 10.5yr old) first sons first car. It's small, light, easy to park and maneuver. It has AWD for foul weather, and only like 180hp or something, so it doesn't go fast enough to really get in too deep of trouble. Visibility is excellent, and it's generally "light weight" enough that I doubt maintenance will be a big issue. Biggest concern there is the CVT that everyone hates for some reason. They don't have a great track record in that area, but it's a relatively small transmission and it's not overly expensive to replace. When the time comes, I'll swap it in the garage and move on.