We have kids. 9 and 2. Both boys. This is our second boat and our 10th season on the water. She does about 1/2 and I do about 1/2........generally speaking.
At home:
She "packs the stuff" and I "ready the boat". That means she's getting togethor the dry clothes bag, beach bag, packing coolers, and making lunch. Things like that. I on the other hand am rearranging the garage, moving cars around, getting the boat attached to the truck, getting the other car back in the garage, and prepping the truck/boat for a tow. We've got this down to about 30min or so from the time we say "go". End of the day is opposite, she deals with the indoor stuff, I deal with the outdoor stuff.
At the ramp:
I run the truck, she runs the boat. I ready the boat for departure, straps off, plugs in, bimini deployed, I drive/back the truck/trailer. She's in the boat, with the boys, blower on, waiting to hit the water. Once in the water, She starts engine, I unhook safety chain and winch release, she backs out into water and waits out of the way. I go park the truck, she comes and gets me at the courtesy dock. We idle out and have a good day. Reverse when we get back to land. She does all the boat things, I do all the truck things until we're on land togethor. Then she gets the boys in the truck, and unpacks the boat, as I'm drying the boat, pulling plugs, adding straps. Once everyone is out of the boat and in the A/C of the truck I stow bimini, cover, and tow home.
When we bought our VERY first boat, this "methodology" was forced on us by the previous owner. He was a houseboat salesman, and he was selling his personal runabout that he used to shuttle people around the lake to look at houseboats. Said he had far greater sales once he started making it an experience, vs a "showing" for a boat. Would take them out, show them a few marina's, a few houseboats for sale, then buy dinner. Said once it was to that point it was something like an 80% close rate. Anywho, he had a TON of experience coaching husband and wife teams on how to handle boating. Both small and large vessels, and he made us choose who was going to do what before we bought. He made me drive the truck/trailer and her drive the boat DURING the test drive. He coached her through it, and ever since, well, that's what we do. We're in/out in literal minutes when we hit the ramp. No muss, no fuss, no arguing, no fighting, no issues. Just get it done, and move on.
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@cjaysanchez , that you have an open honest talk with your spouse. Ask her what she wants to do, what she's comfortable with, and go from there. You can see here there are MANY MANY different opinions, habits, and patterns and none of them will work perfect for you. The biggest goal here is for EVERYONE to have a good time, that's why you bought the boat in the first place right? So cater to what she can and is willing to handle, and adjust from there with some open conversation. No judgement, no predefined notions, no pushing one way or the other. She does what she can, and you handle the rest to make it an easy/fun day for everyone.