Well, I figured I would bump this up since in in BASICALLY the same boat again.
Short updates, I bought a TBSS AWD, which can tow the boat fine in theory. I haven't towed it anywhere yet because we also had our first child. That means the wife needs a larger vehicle, and while it doesn't "technically" have to tow, it'd sure be nice. She also wants space, and is... Particular. We also rebuilt our galvanized trailer vs buying an aluminum one, so I think we are over the 5k pounds mark now.
That sort of has short listed us to a smaller group. Explorer I looked at a year ago and thought they were too cheap inside for the price. Pathfinder is a new option, and likely a good one, but we haven't seen any to go look at, but 6000 pounds towing, 25 mpg highway, no cvt are all good marks. Durango is out for her, but a GCL is a maybe, we haven't looked at those to see if they're sized large enough. Bummer on them is no high altitude model yet, so too much chrome for me. We looked at a gx460 and while we liked it, the space just wasn't there for its size, the super high load floor really does it nonfavors, and why they didn't make the swing door an option is beyond me.
Tahoe and armada are potentials, but it feels disingenuous to say that. We have been trying to go see a Tahoe for 6 months or so now, none have been around to see. Armada is still an option, and we haven't gone to look at one, but kinda feels like a last resort, on account of being priced like Tahoe but not as nice.
We haven't sat in a Sequoia, maybe we should. Again it's one of those things where it feels weird to spend Tahoe money but not get as nice a vehicle. Expedition is a no from me, I'm not messing with the Ecoboost in them. Lx570 is out of our budget (I assume land cruiser is priced basically the same and so is as well.
Wife REALLY liked the palisade we drove, I like the Telluride more, but both are only 5k pounds, so likely not enough. My wife is concerned about something being too big for her so that's an added thing. I wouldn't own any of the Germans without a warranty, and she wants to keep the vehicle 10 years, so they're kinda out of contention. Wagoneer I think is just too much money for us, but admittedly I haven't looked into them that much.
So really, am I overthinking the 5k pound tow rating thing? Am I missing a standout option, or are we stuck between a pathfinder, or a Tahoe/armada type thing?