I hope this isn't out of line...

[Jim Robeson]

I lost my mom Wednesday morning. It was very sudden but she did not suffer and I know she is in a better place. The only reason I even posted this here is because I feel like I have made some friends here even though I have never met you all. It has been a difficult time for myself and my family. I have never watch someone pass before and I am having a difficult time not thinking about what we had to do. To make things harder I am at loss for words to help comfort my father. They were married 53 years and as you can imagine he is broken hearted. I have told him that this is something that will not go away soon and that even 5 years from now this will still hurt. Hell, I can't hardly think about some of the private times that my mom and I had without getting checked up. I am sorry if I have misused this forum for something like this but I have grown to love reading and learning from everyone here and consider all of you a friend.

Jim

 

[octavio3311]

I am very sorry for your loss!

 

[Volffas]

Sorry for your loss Jim. My grandma passed away over a year ago. I actually went to visit grandpa tonight and still was expecting her to answer the door. Our family will keep your family in our prayers.

 

[jetboater4life]

Sorry for your loss. Hopefully you and your Dad can take the necessary time away from the daily grind to heal.

 

[jawsf16]

Jim, this forum is a family of sorts. Our condolences and prayers are with you. Hopefully the pain of loss will be overwhelmed by wonderful memories and the celebration of life.

 

[Julian]

Glad you felt you could share your thoughts here. Very sorry for your loss. There really are no words that will help, but know we are thinking of you and your family.

My mom has Alzheimer's and doesn't know who anyone is anymore....it will be a slow and terrible way to go. It is really strange as she's gone, but not gone. My father is now caring for the person he spent his whole life with who doesn't know who he is. No matter how death comes to us....there is no way to prepare....but I agree with you....quick would be my preference.

Spend as much time with your Dad as you can! Take him out to do the things he loves. Remind him his family needs him, loves him and talk....

 

[Gym]

I also feel your pain Jim as I lost my Dad in 08. Seeing him go was easier than watching his declining struggle over the previous two years. It's not easy. Best wishes to you and your Dad.

 

[Jim Robeson]

Thank you all for you thoughts! Speaking of memories, my mother was deathly scared of water. Couldn't take a shower because she didn't like the water hitting her in the face. But she has chosen to be cremated and her ashes scattered... you guessed it... on the lake. She loved the being on the lake as much as we did even if she couldn't swim. I would take her for a ride and she would sit in the bottom of the boat because she couldn't stand to see how close we were to the water. She did that for me because she knew how much I love being on the lake. She was a special lady.

 

[davel501]

Sorry for your loss. I imagine your Dad is having just as hard a time figuring out how to help you through it.

 

[Johmas50]

I am sorry for your loss, I for one feel that the members of this forum are my friends, there is nothing wrong with sharing your feelings here. Thanks for sharing and my thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family.

 

[Boat Crazy]

Jim,... Sorry for your loss. Prayers being sent for you, your dad, and family.

 

[Bruce]

Very sorry for your loss. I am lucky to still have my parents but lost a grandmother a few years ago and my other one is giving up.

 

[JC6275]

Jim, very sorry for your loss. I lost my dad two years ago to cancer, one thing that has helped me is knowing that a part of him lives on through me and will continue through my children. Memories are a great way of keeping that person with you and remembering good times makes the loss a little more bearable. Thank you for allowing us into one of the most difficult and personal times of your life. You will be in our thoughts in the days to come.

 

[Glassman]

Jim, words can't heal the pain you feel right now. They never will. You may rely on your memories to get you through. I know that's what has gotten me through the tough times.

53 years is an amazing testament to their strength and love for each other. I lost both my parents at a very young age. They weren't around for all the big events in my life, graduating, getting married, having kids, etc. But I have my memories and I have pictures and my kids know who they were and their story. They are still with me to this day.

Cherish what you have had and what you have left.

 

[farrelltravis]

This post is not out of line. This post shows how close-knit this group is.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

 

[steined]

Sorry Jim.

 

[Andy S]

Jim I am sorry for your and your families loss. Keep your family close and you all will get through this difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[Scottintexas]

I'm sorry to hear about this. My father passed away 14 years ago, the pain has passed and the memories are good but I would also suggest just being there for your father, there are no real words to help other than you are there. You will have your spouse and job to help fill the void but his new "normal" will be much different, after a few months just try to make sure he is still active and it will help the healing.

 

[Murf'n'surf]

Jim, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. Go slow and take time to spend with your family.

 

[Lspeedss]

@Jim Robeson We are very sorry for your loss. Your family will be in our prayers. Keep remembering the time you had together. Mom is well ...Mom..very special in our lives..
Steve