J-RAD
Jetboaters Admiral
- Messages
- 2,655
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- Points
- 357
- Location
- Orem Utah
- Boat Make
- Yamaha
- Year
- 2016
- Boat Model
- AR
- Boat Length
- 24
I don't presume to know all that's going on here in this conflict, I only know what I've seen here recently. For some reason I feel the urge to say something... however ignorant I may prove to be. I just feel bothered by the situation and thought that by sharing it might aid in some conflict resolution. I'm not a physiologists or trained in any like manner, but I can bullsh** with the best.
Anyway, from an outsider's perspective maybe it's a little more clear to see the cause of the rift between the two offended parties. It's clear @gmtech16450yz that somewhere along the lines of your interaction with @swatski you've personally offended him. Whether intentional or not it happened... he bluntly stated as much in this thread. As a matter of fact I'm guilty of taking a little offense myself to the callousness of your post about his "wife's feelings". I think the tone of your reply treated him as ignorant... which was not well received. Which in turn has lead me to swing a bit more it @swatski's defense here.
Now offense can go both ways, all to often the person whose offended becomes so without notifying the person whose done the offending. They tend to burden themselves with angst and act annoyed and defensive while the offending party carries on seemingly unaffected. What I'm leading to with this whole post is that there's a need for communication here...
@gmtech16450yz I'm not educated enough on engine tuning to say whose right or wrong here with regard to the Maptuner... I don't know if that really needs to be made clear anyway, @swatski is just sharing his impressions of it... I'm here to learn from everyone's incites and share, the same as you. What matters here, and what you need to take responsibility for is the fact that during your course of sharing your knowledge with someone here you've offended them. Nobody expects you to apologize for sharing things that are in fact true, but if the manner in which it was shared is offensive then that deserves an apology. I don't think that's happened yet.
Again, I'm not privy to all your interactions. I don't mean to presume this is all one sided. Clearly you feel that there has been some retaliation that has tainted your stats and perhaps you feel that there's an apology needed there...
As much as we all love to see drama unfold, I'd rather see everyone here blissfully get along and continually gush over one another's mods and achievements. You both have great and insightful things to share. Sorry if offence has been taken to any of my words. All I can say is I encourage you two and others to communicate with one another, be specific in what you expect from the individual to resolve the conflict. In the future, respect one another's opinions, be sensitive to their pride and humble your own. Bla bla bla...
Back to your regularly scheduled programming.
Anyway, from an outsider's perspective maybe it's a little more clear to see the cause of the rift between the two offended parties. It's clear @gmtech16450yz that somewhere along the lines of your interaction with @swatski you've personally offended him. Whether intentional or not it happened... he bluntly stated as much in this thread. As a matter of fact I'm guilty of taking a little offense myself to the callousness of your post about his "wife's feelings". I think the tone of your reply treated him as ignorant... which was not well received. Which in turn has lead me to swing a bit more it @swatski's defense here.
Now offense can go both ways, all to often the person whose offended becomes so without notifying the person whose done the offending. They tend to burden themselves with angst and act annoyed and defensive while the offending party carries on seemingly unaffected. What I'm leading to with this whole post is that there's a need for communication here...
@gmtech16450yz I'm not educated enough on engine tuning to say whose right or wrong here with regard to the Maptuner... I don't know if that really needs to be made clear anyway, @swatski is just sharing his impressions of it... I'm here to learn from everyone's incites and share, the same as you. What matters here, and what you need to take responsibility for is the fact that during your course of sharing your knowledge with someone here you've offended them. Nobody expects you to apologize for sharing things that are in fact true, but if the manner in which it was shared is offensive then that deserves an apology. I don't think that's happened yet.
Again, I'm not privy to all your interactions. I don't mean to presume this is all one sided. Clearly you feel that there has been some retaliation that has tainted your stats and perhaps you feel that there's an apology needed there...
As much as we all love to see drama unfold, I'd rather see everyone here blissfully get along and continually gush over one another's mods and achievements. You both have great and insightful things to share. Sorry if offence has been taken to any of my words. All I can say is I encourage you two and others to communicate with one another, be specific in what you expect from the individual to resolve the conflict. In the future, respect one another's opinions, be sensitive to their pride and humble your own. Bla bla bla...
Back to your regularly scheduled programming.
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